How to be your own Mom and finally get everything you need 🙉
Spreading cozy in 2022, and new writing by Lari
Dear creatives and friends! 💙
Welcome in 2022, as this is my first post this year. New year, new luck! 🤝 🚀 I love fresh starts - if it was up to me, it could be a new year every day. Radically throwing away what doesn’t work for you. Deciding on new strategies that haven’t been tried yet. Committing to habits that are yummier, more fun and more constructive, and setting “rules out of love”. What could be better? Let’s do that at least once a month. 😋 😛
What were your new year’s wishes? This might be a fun time to ask: How many of your decisions really aim for making you feel as cozy as humanly possible?
Augmenting the coooozy in ‘22
I decided that my 2022 should be about spreading more cozy. Cozy is a philosophy that I accidentally invented last year, when I was very ill. Almost every decision ended up revolving around making myself more comfortable and improving my environment to support physical recovery and emotional sanity.
Cozy stands for “no bullshit”, for removing habits, beliefs, patterns and decisions that have nothing to do with what you really want (and that make you uncozy).
How to be your own Mom
As a first step, I finally published “How to Be Your Own Mom and Finally Get Everything You Need”, after writing at this piece for many weeks on and off. (I don’t usually think in words, so writing can sometimes feel like a really hard translation.)
This article shows three steps to shake up and improve the way you care for yourself. Anyone at any age can suffer from “mom sadness”, a subtle feeling of depression because of a lack of care provided by your parents, often your mom. I’ve seen the power of imagination help with that, so I decided to write about it.
If this sounds weird or interesting, have fun reading!
Assess your parents
All this Mom-talk again got me thinking a lot about the way we do child-raising. The idea came up to build an app for kids to assess their parents for sanity and parent aptitude. It could include things like: Tell your dad a real-life story from your day and ask him to recap. Did he listen? Does he seem interested? Does he start teaching or preaching? Does he immediately find a reason to accuse to of something? 😆
What other questions could be in that app? In what ways would your parents have failed this kind of assessment? 😃 I’m super curious to hear your stories and suggestions!
That app could be the next cozy-spreading project.
Sending warmest wishes and wishing you a cozy and creative start into the next year.